Hey friends,
I like to think of us as just that – friends. People who can hang out together through the good times and the bad. A friendship that is a two way street – you are there for me, and I’ll be there for you 150% back. But sometimes, we find friends who abuse our love for them. We find ourselves wrapped up in a world of problems that aren’t our own, but we feel like we have to solve them. We are in a war against a problem that we can’t win. And the worst part is, this is our “friend.” What can we do?
I would say there are a couple of ways to tell if your friendship is toxic and whether it’s time to cut it loose or give it another chance….
1. They only talk to you when they need something.
I have a heart of compassion. The biggest problem with this is that I have a big problem with letting people’s problems go unsolved. Their problem used to become my problem. Key words here are “used to.” A toxic friend doesn’t really want to hang out or chat about you or the good things in life, they only talk when something is on their mind and they want someone else feeling sorry for them.
2. You’re easily replaced.
That friend recently gets a boyfriend? Be prepared to kiss your bestie bye-bye. While this may seem like something good, at the start, it really isn’t. Because guess who is going to hear about it once that boy takes the high road? Lucky little you.
3. If you don’t agree, you’re a monster.
Maybe you want to give them a bit of advice, or point out the error in their ways. Nope. Sorry. Not happy to listen. A toxic friend only wants you to feel sorry for them. They don’t want your advice, if they don’t compeltely ignore it, you’ll be getting an earful of just how horrible of a friend you are.
4. They make you feel guilty over small things.
You were at work so you couldn’t reply? “You could’ve left work early.” You’re out with friends? “Stop ignoring me.” You 
“saw” their message, and didn’t reply. “I can’t believe I ever trusted you with my feelings.”
Believe it or not, these are actual responses I have received from my so-called-friends. Darling, let me tell you, you are not in charge of your friend’s feelings and you are not responsible for solving their problems. You are responsible for you, and they are responsible for themselves. Never, ever, let anybody make you feel guilty for not being there for them. Sometimes, your friends need to toughen up, grow up and realise that they have to help themselves. There’s nothing wrong with listening to someone, supporting and loving on them, but there is something wrong with taking that problem, making it your own and then getting blamed for not fixing it.
I hope you never feel like that. I hope you realise your true friends will accept you exactly as you are and love and support you exactly how you will do for them. I hope you realise you are beautiful and loved.
Love,
Anastasia 
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